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Take The First Step Toward A Better Relationship What’s Involved in This Program?

In the version of the OurRelationship® program for military couples, you and your partner will work together on online activities to solve relationship problems. You can complete these activities on your schedule using your phone, computer, or tablet. You’ll also have five 20‐minute calls with a program coach – calls can be scheduled during the day, evenings, or weekends. You can even do this program when you’re deployed or long‐distance.

This confidential program is not created or run by the military – none of your information will be shared with the military. We also have a version for same-gender couples.

Couples have experienced improvements in the following:

  • Communication problems / too many arguments
  • Emotional distance or lack of love
  • Lack of trust or infidelity/cheating
  • Fights about money, parenting, or other specific topics
  • Difficulty recovering from painful events in the past
  • And many others

Watch one couple’s experience using the OurRelationship program – as seen on CBS news.

Benefits of the Free Program

The free program is funded by a grant from the US Administration for Children and Families and designed to support military couples.

If you qualify for the free program, you’ll have regular calls with a program coach – daytime, evening, and weekend times are available. We’ll also send you gift cards to Amazon, Walmart, or Target worth $150 per couple for completing the program and filling out online research surveys. For more information, click here.

Confirm You Qualify to Receive Our Program for Free

How it Works In Four Simple Steps

Step 1 – Select a Program

Before you start the program, you and your partner will both fill out an online survey. It will have questions about you as an individual as well as about your relationship.

You can also choose to do our individual program if you prefer to do the program on your own, or if you’re in a same-sex relationship, we also offer a version of the program tailored for same-sex couples.

Step 2 – Get Started

Next, you’ll create your accounts and schedule your first call with your coach. On that call, you’ll have a chance to ask any questions you have. You’ll then get access to the online program designed so the two of you understand and solve problems in your relationship.

Step 3 – Learn and Grow

As you go through the program, you will have lessons to complete on your own. After you’ve finished a section, you and your partner will come together to talk about what you’ve learned. You’ll also have four more 20-minute calls with your coach (about one call a week) who can help you apply the online content to your own relationship.

Step 4 – Put In The Time

Our programs can deliver real results, but it won’t happen overnight. Generally, these programs take between 8-10 hours to complete over the course of 5-8 weeks. Throughout the program, we will teach you new ways to communicate and identify changes to strengthen your relationship. We are confident that your relationship will improve after you and your partner have completed our program.

Does My Partner Have To Do This Program With Me?

Our research has shown that these programs are most effective when both partners work on their relationship together. This is one of the reasons that the grant-funded program requires couples to complete the program together.

If you would rather do the program on your own, you may be interested in our individual program.

If you’re not sure if your partner is willing to do this program with you, try the following ideas:

  • Present it as a way to improve your relationship — not your partner.
  • Remember to talk about how important your relationship is to you and that you’re invested in making it better.
  • Encourage your partner to think about things he/she wants to change in your relationship – this program is a perfect opportunity to make that happen.
  • If you’re worried your partner will feel cornered, write him/her a note, or email the site to your partner to look over.

Outcomes

You may be thinking, “This program sounds good, but how do I know it really works?” Good question! There are many online programs that promise incredible results, so what makes our program different?

  • Unlike other programs, ours has been tested in several nationwide, randomized trials with more than 5,000 couples.
  • 94% of participants were satisfied with our program.
  • 97% of participants would recommend us to a friend.
  • Our program has also helped to improve symptoms such as depression and anxiety.

Read one of our studies

I have recommended this program to a friend of mine whose husband is in the military and they don’t have time to go to an in-person program – so this was a great alternative

It's a good place to start and helps couples to begin looking at things in a deeper, more meaningful way

"When we started the program we were fighting daily. After completing the program, I have a new outlook on our relationship and we're able to communicate without fighting."

Benefits of the Free Program

The free program is funded by a grant from the US Administration for Children and Families and designed to support military couples.

If you qualify for the free program, you’ll have regular calls with a program coach – daytime, evening, and weekend times are available. We’ll also send you gift cards to Amazon, Walmart, or Target worth $150 per couple for completing the program and filling out online research surveys. For more information, click here.

Confirm You Qualify to Receive Our Program for Free

Supported by the Administration for Children and Families

Funding for this project was approved by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families. Grant Number: 90ZB0019. The content is solely the responsibility of the authors and does not necessarily represent the official views of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services or the Administration of Children and Families.

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