Don’t Give Up! 9 Tips for How to Get Through a Rough Patch in a Relationship
Are you experiencing problems in your relationship but don’t want to break up?
Don’t worry, your relationship isn’t doomed. Rather, you’re going through a rough patch in your relationship. And this is perfectly normal.
When the honeymoon phase is over, getting to REALLY know each other is difficult for all couples. And no one is perfect.
This is why it’s best to try and work things out before calling the whole relationship quits. Fortunately, there’s a way you can work through any problem.
If there’s still hope in your relationship, here are 9 tips to get through a rough patch in a relationship.
1. Try and Spend More Time Together
Oftentimes, relationships struggle because you and your partner don’t spend enough time together. And it’s understandable why.
Many couples have conflicting work schedules or life happens. Long distance relationships are also on the rise, which is always a struggle.
Try to make time for each other as much as possible. Plan a date or just plan a Netflix night once a week.
2. Identify Bad Behavior
A relationship can either bring out the best or the worst in us. Do you notice you’re always in a crabby mood when you’re with your partner? Or do you notice your partner is progressively becoming more depressed or negative?
Your partner should bring out the best in you. But if the opposite is happening, reflect back on your or your partner’s behavior and try to identify the culprit. Who knows – it may not have anything to do with the relationship.
3. Hold Onto Trust
Trust is the foundation for every relationship. Even during the bad times, you should always hold on to trust.
Trust can be anything. Trust can mean you know all of your problems will work out. Trust can also mean your partner will never go behind your back, even during the tough times.
Even if you two are fighting or if the spark is fading, trust will always bring you two back together.
4. Remember the Good Times
During the bad times, it’s always easy to be negative and feel resentment toward your partner. But you get what you put out into the universe.
If you want the relationship to work out, start feeling more positive. The easiest way to do this is by remembering the good times.
The good times can mean anything.
Maybe it was a special day, like your first date or a wedding day. It can also be a combination of the times your partner made you smile and laugh. Even focusing on what you love about your partner can also bring positivity.
5. Never Stop Loving Them
Love is unconditional. That means your love is strong during the good times…and the bad. Even during this difficult time, never stop loving them.
But this is easier said than done. You could be mad at your partner or feeling negatively toward them. In order for the relationship to work, the flame can’t go out. And this isn’t easy when you’re going through a rough patch.
Little things keep love alive, such as “good morning” and “goodnight” text messages. Remember back to a time when your love was the deepest. Repeat this time by going out on little dates or doing things you did back then.
Talking is easy in a relationship. You have a lot of things on your mind and you can’t way to spill it all out on your partner. But this may not be as beneficial as you think.
Instead of opening your mouth, open your ears. Let your partner talk first. You’ll be surprised how effective this can be; who knows, maybe your partner already knows the solutions to your problems.
7. Keep the Attraction Alive
During the bad times, the last thing you may think about is sex. But you’ll be shocked at how many problems sex can solve.
Intimacy is important in any relationship. Sex and attraction are what truly helps you two connect. Sex also boosts feel-good neurotransmitters that can put you two in a happier mood.
Are you still uncomfortable with sex during this time? You can still do little things to fire that spark. Wear sexy outfits around the house. Kiss and hold each other more. Any physical intimacy will re-ignite that spark.
8. Ask Advice From Family and Friends
No one knows you and your relationship better than your family and friends. That’s why they will have a thing or two to say about the situation. Who knows, they have probably been through a similar situation.
Ask their advice. They may have something valuable to say. They can also help describe why you feel a certain way. And some people would rather be a sounding board so you can share your hurt and anger.
9. You Both Have to Make It Work
Even if the love is still there, the relationship won’t work unless both of you are willing to make it work. If one person is putting their all into the relationship, it will inevitably fail.
What does this mean? You both have to agree that you’ll do what you can to improve the relationship. You both also have to agree that the both of you want this relationship to work.
This also means if your partner is too discouraged or lazy to work on the relationship, you need to pull the plug.
You Can Repair a Rough Patch in a Relationship
Suffering through a rough patch in a relationship is difficult for any couple. But just remember that no relationship is perfect. As long as there’s love and a will to make it work, you and your partner can overcome any relationship issues.
Use these tips and give it some time. Just try and be positive. You and your partner will work things out.
Another great way to repair your relationship is through couples counseling.
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