May 15, 2023

Common Questions Asked About Dating A Military Man

by Jackson Weiser

We often get various questions about dating military men. Whether you just started dating a military man or you’ve been together for some time, we hope to provide some clarity to questions we receive about dating someone in the military.

“What do military guys look for in a girl?”

Military guys, just like anyone else, look for someone they can connect with emotionally, intellectually, and physically. They value qualities such as loyalty, understanding, and flexibility in their partners.

“Why are military guys so clingy?”

Military life can be unpredictable, and deployments and separations can make couples feel like they’re constantly in a state of transition. This can make military guys feel more clingy or needy than usual, as they crave the stability and comfort of a relationship during challenging times.

“Why do military guys move fast in relationships?”

Military life is fast-paced and full of change. When a military man meets someone they connect with, they may feel like they need to move quickly because they don’t know when their circumstances might change.

“Why do military guys fall in love so fast?”

Similarly to moving fast in relationships, military guys may fall in love quickly because they want to make the most of their time with their partner. The threat of deployment or separation can make them feel like they need to act quickly to solidify their relationship.

“Why does my military boyfriend seem emotionless?”

Whether you are dating a veteran or someone who is currently in the military, PTSD can manifest itself in a seemingly emotionless outward appearance. Unfortunately, many veterans and servicemen suffer from PTSD, so they might have difficulty expressing positive emotions as a result of re-experiencing traumatic states.1

“Are military guys faithful?”

Just like with any other group of people, there are both faithful and unfaithful individuals among military guys. It’s unfair to generalize an entire group based on the actions of a few. However, military life can be stressful and challenging, which can sometimes put a strain on relationships. It’s important to have open and honest communication with your partner about your expectations and boundaries.

“How do I know if a military guy likes me?”

There are a few signs that a military guy may be interested in you. He may make an effort to spend time with you, initiate conversations, and ask you questions about yourself. He may also show concern for your well-being and try to make you feel comfortable and supported. It’s important to remember, however, that not everyone shows their interest in the same way. Some military men might be more reserved or shy. Therefore, if you’re unsure about how someone feels about you, the best thing to do would be to ask them directly. 


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  1. Litz, B. T., & Gray, M. J. (2002). Emotional numbing in posttraumatic stress disorder: current and future research directions. The Australian and New Zealand journal of psychiatry, 36(2), 198–204. https://doi.org/10.1046/j.1440-1614.2002.01002.x


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